another person told me I look like Lykke Li yesterday
I spent the winter writing songs about getting better,
And if I’m being honest, I’m getting there.
idk why people on this website think its perfectly fine to do drugs and smoke and drink excessively and if you say anything to anybody about it you’re suddenly a shitty person like sorry i dont want my friends to get cancer or kill someone or be killed in a drunk driving accident
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with expressing your concern with friends but honestly, it’s their life and their choices and it’s none of your damn business what they choose to do with it.
if they choose to slowly kill themselves, and possibly others, then it is my damn business, it’s my responsibility to step in and say something to that person before they harm themselves or someone else.
my grandfather died of lung cancer bc of his smoking and i never got to meet him, i get to see my dad get a sad look in his eyes when he talks about him, that’s all.
i learned my best friend got addicted to smoking and alcohol when he was 14 fucking years old. if i had a clue i would have said something. thankfully he got clean and is still alive today. i stood by him while he struggled with getting off cigarettes. some people, though, don’t live to do that.
i understand most people do drugs, smoke, and drink in moderation, which is alright, but unfortunately that doesn’t apply to everyone.
tumblr’s “don’t give people shit for their choices it’s their life not yours” shit is actually pretty harmful sometimes.
When I was eating pills the last thing I wanted was for someone to intervene. Unless someone is trying to stop, it isn’t your business.
If it doesn’t directly (and the only way this could happen is if they’re your parents) affect you then I strongly suggest you don’t say anything because 9 times out of 10 the last thing an addict wants to hear is someone’s opinion.
Unless someone says to you
"Please help me stop"
Them slowly killing themselves isn’t your responsibility.
Exactly. Clearly you’ve never been an addict yourself. (And that’s nothing to applaud nor demean - we’re all human.) Addicts are doing what they do for themselves and what those exact reasons are, whether pleasure or pain, are irrelevant. Your opinion is not going to matter. I promise. The only person that will make an addict change is their own self when THEY are ready. Don’t get on their back. If anything, it usually makes things worse. Offer them support and love but PLEASE don’t get on their back.
Their choices are theirs and theirs alone.